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But You LOOK Good – 25th Anniversary Edition

How to Encourage and Support People
Living with Invisible Disabilities

Grounded in over 30 years of lived experience, this essential caregiver guide features nearly 50% brand-new content and 25 inspiring stories.

Paperback ships starting Sept 19th from IDA.
Quantity discounts available for groups, companies, and organizations!
Amazon Paperback launches Sept 8th ($11.99)

A Practical Guide to Bridging the Gap Between Invisible Disabilities and Understanding

For 25 years, But You LOOK Good has served as an essential lifeline for people living with invisible disabilities and the loved ones who want to support them. It gives a voice to feelings that are often hard to put into words and provides clear, actionable ways to offer meaningful encouragement.

What to Say (and What NOT to Say)

Gain practical language to offer meaningful support while avoiding well-meaning phrases that invalidate or hurt.

Understanding Invisible Symptoms

Learn how hidden symptoms like severe fatigue, pain, and brain fog impact daily life—even when someone looks healthy.

Actionable Support Tools

Discover simple, tangible ways for friends and family to help loved ones navigate daily life without causing overwhelm.

The Power of Presence

See how living with an invisible disability leads to isolation, and learn why showing up with quiet, consistent presence matters most.

What Leaders & Experts Are Saying

But You LOOK Good is more than a book about invisible disabilities—it is a powerful invitation to see, believe, and love people more fully. Written with authenticity, compassion, and hard-earned wisdom.”

JOHN O’LEARY, Acclaimed Speaker, Podcast Host & #1 Bestselling Author of On Fire

“Now, with new and expanded content in addition to the same trusted information, the book promises to go further than ever to promote a culture of compassion… You won’t want to miss an opportunity to purchase or re-purchase this essential resource.”

DANIEL C. POTTS, MD, FAAN, Neurologist | Founder & President, Cognitive Dynamics Foundation

“Wayne and Sherri Connell offer a masterclass in practical empathy, equipping us to build inclusive workplaces and supportive homes where individuals with invisible disabilities are truly understood, believed, and empowered.”

MELISSA BROOKS, PHR, VP of Human Resources, Breckenridge-Wynkoop Restaurant Group

Meet the Inspiring People Featured in the Book

Equip Your Team, Clinic, Community, Company or Yourself

Foster true empathy, inclusion, and practical support across your network with the 25th Anniversary Edition.

  • Healthcare Clinics & Support Groups: Provide patients, families, and caregivers with practical advice on navigating unseen health conditions.
  • Corporate HR & ERGs: Build an inclusive, empathetic workplace culture that recognizes and empowers employees living with invisible disabilities.
  • Nonprofits & Community Groups: Share a proven, life-changing resource with your members, volunteers, and donors.

Why Order Direct from IDA?

  • Tiered Volume Pricing: Special discounted pricing automatically applied to bulk quantities.
  • Direct Mission Impact: 100% of proceeds directly fund the outreach programs of the Invisible Disabilities Association.